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eateroftrees:

If you use ‘____phobia’ to refer to systematic oppression you are conflating disability and systematic oppression, and THIS HURTS PEOPLE.

So come up with new terms, please.

EDIT: And I’m not exaggerating about the hurting people thing; this has happened to me. ._. And there’s the whole issue of it strips people with the ability to self-identify because the term is associated with problematic behavior.

This is relevant to my last post. I’m not qualified to come up with a new term for systematic oppression of sex workers, not being a sex worker myself, so I’m going with “shaming of sex workers”.

talking-bird:

rtothemj:

talking-bird:

I just saw an article call Leslie Knope a slut-shamer, and I’m confused.

She didn’t berate Trish in the Beauty Pageant for being “slutty,” but for being uninformed and unintelligent.

She didn’t berate Jessica Wicks for being “slutty,” but for destroying historical landmarks.

She didn’t care that Shauna had sex, she was just upset that it was with Mark.

She has had sex. She knows Ann has sex. She is fine with Ann having sex.

I’m… seriously really confused, did I miss something?

[Gif description: Leslie Knope making an “ew” face.]

Assuming this is referring to my article.…

Slut-shaming is not quite the right word and so I’ve changed it. But I think she shows a lot of whorephobia in the episode where she takes Tom to the strip club (2X11, Tom’s Divorce) - Ron also participates - where they basically make a ton of judgey comments about the life choices of the strippers they see. IE, Leslie calls Sierra “Seabiscuit”, which is kind of dehumanizing, and then tells her to reconsider her life choices.

I’m postponing that particular article because I’m interested to see where the “empowered slut” storyline Rashida has mentioned goes, but I was very frustrated by that scene in particular.

Ah, alright. I’m hoping you don’t think I was being rude, because it was genuine misunderstanding on my part.

The way I see it, Leslie has always been a misguided feminist, which you touch on in your article also. I don’t think the “Seabiscuit” joke and the life choices thing is dehumanizing so much as Leslie being uncomfortable with the situation (because she isn’t a flawless feminist; she acknowledges the school of thought that some think of stripping as a feminist activity, but just finds herself not at ease in the situation) and the character being socially awkward. And the Seabiscuit thing was  her mishearing the woman in the strip club.

Leslie isn’t a perfect feminist, and I don’t think the show has ever set her up as someone truly schooled in that world of thought; she’s just incredibly enthusiastic about it, and sometimes in misguided ways, which is where the humor comes from. I don’t know that one episode of stripperphobia is enough to condemn her; she’s a socially awkward character.

You weren’t rude :) I love your blog, BTW.

I hope you don’t think that I’m trying to condemn her; like I say in the article, I really, really love Leslie Knope and I think she’s great.

That episode was particularly frustrating for me because I think it’s one of the times where she spends the most time talking about feminism, and in the context it was illustrating something I don’t like about feminism. Which for me was disappointing because there are times that I think she’s a fantastic feminist, as the article I quoted pointed out - she’s kind and good to other people and treats them with respect.

I can understand a different reading of the episode, though. The Seabiscuit comment actually meets my standard for a critical joke (as opposed to one that reinforces the problem) since Sierra actively corrects her. And since it’s not something that is really touched upon much in other episodes now that I’m thinking about it, I might not expand upon it in a future article. I’ll keep your thoughts in mind when I sit down to write it. Thanks for engaging.

talking-bird:

I just saw an article call Leslie Knope a slut-shamer, and I’m confused.

She didn’t berate Trish in the Beauty Pageant for being “slutty,” but for being uninformed and unintelligent.

She didn’t berate Jessica Wicks for being “slutty,” but for destroying historical landmarks.

She didn’t care that Shauna had sex, she was just upset that it was with Mark.

She has had sex. She knows Ann has sex. She is fine with Ann having sex.

I’m… seriously really confused, did I miss something?

[Gif description: Leslie Knope making an “ew” face.]

Assuming this is referring to my article.…

Slut-shaming is not quite the right word and so I’ve changed it. But I think she shows a lot of whorephobia in the episode where she takes Tom to the strip club (2X11, Tom’s Divorce) - Ron also participates - where they basically make a ton of judgey comments about the life choices of the strippers they see. IE, Leslie calls Sierra “Seabiscuit”, which is kind of dehumanizing, and then tells her to reconsider her life choices.

I’m postponing that particular article because I’m interested to see where the “empowered slut” storyline Rashida has mentioned goes, but I was very frustrated by that scene in particular.

genderbitch:

Try to remember that your cissupremacist culture is the one that denied us the use of terminology that works for us, that can adequately describe our pain, our self conceptualization and how we feel, the underlying and epic truth of our existence that you deny.

It is your culture that resulted in less effective means of describing what it is to be trans like “woman/man/nonbinary trapped in a male/female/unassigned body”, “female or male or nonbinary brain”, “gender dysphoria”, “sex change”, “person who wants to become gender A” and etc.

It is you and your people, cisgender people, who stole from us the means to communicate to you what we are and how we are. So don’t go attacking the phrasings we use as though we weren’t forced to use them by a society that completely and utterly erases our very existence and validity within its very language and puts everything in terms of your experiences only, as though they were used objectively when better terms existed already.

You kicked us into this shit hole. We’re only trying to climb back out. Get your boots away from our fingers and try fucking thinking outside your cissupremacist little world.

eateroftrees:

Okay, so generally I understand myself and my motives and everything, right?

Yeaaaaahhh I just noticed that’s complete bullshit.  I have somehow managed to persuade myself that I completely understand myself when I in fact have ABSOLUTELY NO CLUE about large swaths of everything.

I don’t think I can trust my head >.>

“Don’t believe everything you think” is a frequent message I try to send myself when I’m having intrusive thought attacks.

I always try to remind myself that I don’t understand everything, or everything about any topic, and never will It doesn’t really depress me or freak me out; it relieves me for some reason.

My bathroom sink has been clogged for about a month. It’s not the thing that’s been broken the longest in my house, but it’s the one that intruded the most into my daily activity; washing my face in the kitchen, dumping the guh-ross water that built up out in the shower, et cetera.

None of the usual pipe cleaning gel-type solution worked. My landlord refused to fix it, and then felt bad and agreed to pay for it, but then I felt bad because, as I said, some stuff is broken. I also hate people I don’t know coming into my house during the day.

And I also thought, “hey, might as well learn a skill or something like that.” You know, life skills bullshit. But then I promptly put it off for a month.

I am not the best with cleaning and house stuff. I am not what you’d call house proud. Not my best quality, but one I try not to get too self-critical over, considering the internalized misogyny that goes into guilt over an unkempt house. I have other stuff that I’m more concerned with.

Yesterday, I was getting in a random-walk-around-the-house-doing-stuff cheerful ADD mood, and I walked into my bathroom and thought “ENOUGH, I MUST FINISH YOU, CLOG!” And I set to it and did it, which is the fun thing about ADD sometimes.

It was incredibly simple, so I thought I would share it with people in case this happens to them (and also so I can clearly remember it next time!).

First, I poured old, caked-together baking soda into the (emptied) sink. Not down the drain, just into the sink.

After that, I poured white vinegar into the sink and left it to do its bubbly thing.

I returned periodically to check on it.  If there was still baking soda left, I poured more vinegar. I used about a liter or so.

Then I got to the gross-intensive part. I got out some q-tips and dug around in the stopper (which I did not remove, I don’t know how to do that) and got gunk out.

I have no idea which part of this worked, but it is now draining beautifully. That is not an exaggeration - I have probably spent a half hour total since just turning it on and off, watching it go away immediately, feeling satisfied and even proud.

atchka:

I want to follow you (even if your blog is not FA-related).

My hair is a perfect sun shield sometimes.

I know that people hovering over me to make sure I’m doing my work does not work. I know this because I never, ever did homework in high school.

But now that no one hovers over me to make me do my work? I really wish they would. Because here is my life right now:

*diligently works for an hour*

*LA LA LA TUMBLR*

*LA LA LA BEJEWELED BLITZ*

*realizes shift is almost up, scrambles to finish work*

*get anxious about losing job for several hours*

*LA LA LA FOOD TUMBLR NETFLIX*

*sleep*

And repeat, forever.