Yesterday I fucked up big-time.
I identified Helen G of bird of paradox as a cis woman with a long history of appropriating trans experiences, both in this space and at my main blog. This is an act of erasure and verbal violence against a trans woman who does not need to be shit over any more. It places me on the level of many others that I have hypocritically taken to task for their crimes against trans women - even worse.
It could have been easily avoided, but I was not careful enough in my writing and reporting. It continues the cis feminist tradition of centering cis women in discussion of trans issues, and appropriating and erasing the work and words of trans women without credit or thought.
I furthered this hateful act by not taking my hurtful actions seriously enough and immediately apologizing and taking responsibility. I did not realize how grave my mistake was until I read her post this morning. Clearly, I am not qualified to be writing about trans women if I am capable of such violence and callousness.
I apologize without reservations to Helen G and any and all others who were hurt by this unforgivable and appropriative act. I have a lot of learning and listening to do, so per her request, I will be silent on trans issues for a while.
Thanks and apologies also to Kinsey, who helped me to understand and work through this in a way that stole her spoons. She’s a good friend, and deserves better.